All Cuddle Parties for 2020 have been postponed until further notice. Stay Safe Folks. 


Cuddle Party is a playful social event designed for adults to explore platonic touch, communication, boundaries, and affection. You can come to a Cuddle Party to meet new people, to enjoy amazing conversations, to touch, to be touched, to have fun, to practice asking for what you want, to practice saying “no” to what you don’t want — all in a setting structured to be a safe place for exploration and enjoyment. You can even come to a Cuddle Party just to cuddle!

Every Cuddle Party starts with a Welcome Circle which outlines the rules for the cuddling afterwards. The rules are tried and true, and there’s a logic to them that goes deeper than you might think to create a safe, fun environment for people to connect. It is like a mini-workshop on consent, communication, and boundaries. 

The Welcome Circle is followed by 2 - 3 hours of free-style 'cuddling' where you get to play and connect with others in ways that are consensual and authentic to you. 'Cuddling' may look like a head massage, a foot rub, holding a hand, a full body spoon, or a good conversation at a comfortable distance between bodies. The kind of touch you would like to receive or give is totally up to you and the welcome circle gives you great tools to navigate that with others. You never have to do anything you don't want to do, all we ask is that you stick to the rules. 

Some other pieces to be aware of:

  • Cuddle Party is for adults over the age of 18. We need everyone to be on the same page as much as possible and that means everyone having capacity and taking full responsibility for their own well-being. There are inherent power dynamics with minors and we are not exploring these edges. Plus it's a legal thing. 

  • Cuddle Party is not a sexual event. It’s not a hook-up or dating scene. It’s common to make new friends, and occasionally people have met dating partners, but mostly it’s about friendship and learning nurturing touch. If you find someone you would like to communicate with again outside of the Cuddle Party then we ask you offer your number, instead of requesting theirs, and give space for their response. Silence is a No. This continues the respect and consent culture we have fostered in the Cuddle Party experience. 

  • The ability to negotiate conscious consent is a fundamental value at Cuddle Party.  Please refrain from alcohol and all other mind altering substances before and during a Cuddle Party. 

At the end of the event, we do a brief Closing Circle to share with you some closing thoughts for the road, encourage you to bring your learnings with you as you travel forward, and give everyone a chance to share any parting thoughts with the group. Participants are often in a state of cuddle 'intoxication' at this point, and feeling a sense of connection with the group that they never would have anticipated at the beginning of the event. 


"I love practicing consent. Asking for what I want and being open to hearing a 'yes' or 'no' . Vanessa is professional as she is warm and holds the space beautifully. Thank You!" - Julia

"Best ever, loved the demos at the opening circle, great group of people. Thanks!" - Martin

"As a first time attendee, the Cuddle Party was an amazing experience to have fun, relax, learn, listen, share and connect with nice people. You'll feel uplifted after and will want to come back again" - Fred.


Due to Covid-19 and with advice from the Cuddle Party facilitator community I have decided to suspend Cuddle Party events for a few months. Will update you all with new dates later in the year once the risk of transmission has lowered to a reasonable risk level. Stay safe folks and take of yourself and others.  

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